When Friends change! because of their boyfriend / girlfriend?

Written by Sathya 3 comments Posted in:

Ever had you best friend suddenly acting weird and all of a suddenly u hear the news that she / he has been going out with another guy / girl. And then all of a sudden, things are just not the same anymore.

This happen more in case of friendship between opposite genders, than with the species of the same kind (after all there are two species among humans rite). It happened with a close friend of mine. In fact, we had been friends for almost 6 yrs before that happened. She was one girl who was totally against love marriage, and used to always scold me if that line of conversation came up. She was quite close to me, the two of us spending over hours talking on the phone almost daily.

Then one day, BANG!!! Everything just stops. It started slowly at first. It started with her telling about talking with a senior of hers, and their conversation period slowly started increasing, intruding into the time we used to spend together. Then one fine day, she tells me that she is changing her number. I was expecting her to change to same sim as mine (as all I had been asking her to do same for quite some time), but then she said it was as the senior. That really struck a chord. Since then the conversation time dropped drastically.

Then finally after almost 4 months apparently keeping me in the dark (or so she thought), she finally decided to tell me about the relation she is having with the guy. Guess what, I was able to guess the whole thing before she could even get it out of her mouth. Close friends for 6 yrs, what did she expect. I had known her inside out. Anyways, since then the conversation rates had drastically reduced, from once a week to over months. Now, I don’t even remember the last time I spoke with her, guess it was somewhere in the starting of November, 2009. And frankly am not bothered any more. There was a time when I really felt bad, but then I realized that I just don’t mean anything (or least not the same friend) to her any more. 

But I don’t blame the guy, not at all, because he never restricted her. She just decided involuntarily to lose touch. The best part is, the guy never lost touch with any of his friends and even she is part of that gang now, considering all those people to be her close friends. That thing that hurt wasn’t that the conversation time reduced, but the fact that over night I lost all the importance of a having been close friend of hers for over 6 yrs. Well, am not bugging anyone anymore with this piece of history. All I want to convey is that, if just because a new person comes into your life, doesn’t mean that you can ignore the old one. Because, at the end of it all, you still lose someone who cares a lot about you.

3 comments:

  2. Sathya

    i did... that wat i said towards the end, am not bothered about her anymore...

    Sun Feb 21, 05:03:00 PM GMT+5:30
  3. priya

    man! that must hv been harsh! mayb she dint desrve to b ur frnd in the 1st place..

    Tue Feb 23, 12:28:00 AM GMT+5:30

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